In the olden days (the early 2000’s), I used to love to go to nightclubs and shake it like a polaroid picture (probably to some Outkast but mostly dance music). And I mean, SHAKE it. On more than one occasion I woke up with whiplash after dancin’ all night long with my mate Kirsti.
Recently I read this comment online that simply said “Self Worth is sexy AF”. It made me giggle but also, it struck me as accurate. Not only is Self Worth an attractive quality in another person but it’s a sexy feeling within. I wrote a post recently about ‘It’s okay to take your time’ and in it, I suggested that taking your time and going at a pace that suits you reflects high self worth.
So I was thinking about the sexy feeling of Self Worth and how for me, setting my own pace is one way I honour myself and demonstrate to myself that I’m worthy and as I was reflecting on this, I had this strange memory pop up. And it was this:
Me on a sweaty dancefloor, the kind of which I may never see up close again. Just a zillion kids slick with perspiration all jumping around, hands in the air in an ecstatic, chaotic mess. I imagine it is kind of like how particles that have been heated up must appear under a microscope - bodies bouncing off one another and flying everywhere. And there, in the middle was my friend Mia. And she was moving in a super slow way, seemingly oblivious to everyone around her. It was like in a movie scene when they put things in slo’ mo’ but everyone else is sped up. I don’t think I’ve ever seen anything sexier. But it wasn’t just that she’s a hot dancer - she totally is - but it was also that she was just so in her moment and in her experience and didn’t give a flying f*ck what everyone else was doing. She was going her speed.
I feel like it’s not always easy to set a pace that reflects your own internal preferred speed when we’re in a world with others. Sometimes we might have to keep pace with what everyone else is doing if we want to participate in some things. But I am keeping Mia’s slow dance in my mind going forward whenever I feel pressure to keep up with the world, as inspiration for how to romance myself and feel that sexy feeling of worthiness within.